survive the following week?Well i am off to bedfordshire fairly soon, not the county btw. What advice could you give me to?
Stay away from teenagers, avoid dark places, don't help anyone that are in the process of being mugged, secure all doors and window's and remember to unplug all electrical items before you go to bed...sleep safe and maybe we will talk later!.xWell i am off to bedfordshire fairly soon, not the county btw. What advice could you give me to?
Forget Bedfordshire, go to Thorpe Park, eat a KFC, ride on Stealth and vomit all over a group of 16 year olds.
Get yourself a nice cool summer dress and one of those hand-held battery operated fan things.
Make sure you get your rabies shots before you go.
Enjoy being in the moment. G'night.
just one day at a time.........remember the weekend cummeth
ummm......update your ipod songs?
Stay focused, don't stress ....
and stick to your own bed..lol!
My Advice is to call me and i'll sleep over!...yummy...
Friday, April 30, 2010
Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?
I just started playing on Saturday. Learning the basics. Any advice you can give that might help?Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?
Always start by doing quests in the starting area. Try not to skip any as most will teach you the basics of the game. Never try and rush things, if u ever run into a problem, visit the forums or ask a fellow player. Joining a guild may also help in your questing or trading. LASTLY, do not be rude(e.g leaving the party in the middle of a quest). if you are rude, most players will not like you and that will not help in your questing etc...Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?
If you are in a dungeon and someone on your team yells, ';LEEROY JENKINS!'; then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
1) Go through the basic quests in the starting area - they'll give some good instructions on how to play your class.
2) Pick up and sell *everything*. Get bags as soon as possible - the more spaces you have, the more you'll be able to drag back to town to sell.
3) Check out the worldofwarcraft.com forums or the stuff on wowwiki.com - you can pick up some great tips on how to play. thottbot.com can help with info on quests and skills.
4) Don't be afraid to work with others - it can help get past some of those difficult spots.
5) Don't take it too seriously - you're there to have fun. If something's frustrating... step back, take a break, and try it later.
uh...never ever buy stuff (weapons, armor) from NPCs.
don be afraid to ask for help in the main channels
join a guild early, if you have a fren playing already and who is in a guild. guildies help a lot
if u are playing a hunter or warrior...can add me in msn at y_liming@hotmail.com basically i can answer everything regarding these 2 class. i been playing ever since the beta
have fun...but control urself.
cheers
Dude quit while you still have a chance. You will get sucked in and not have a life. endofstory.
Always start by doing quests in the starting area. Try not to skip any as most will teach you the basics of the game. Never try and rush things, if u ever run into a problem, visit the forums or ask a fellow player. Joining a guild may also help in your questing or trading. LASTLY, do not be rude(e.g leaving the party in the middle of a quest). if you are rude, most players will not like you and that will not help in your questing etc...Do you have any basic advice for a new World of Warcraft (WoW) player?
If you are in a dungeon and someone on your team yells, ';LEEROY JENKINS!'; then RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
1) Go through the basic quests in the starting area - they'll give some good instructions on how to play your class.
2) Pick up and sell *everything*. Get bags as soon as possible - the more spaces you have, the more you'll be able to drag back to town to sell.
3) Check out the worldofwarcraft.com forums or the stuff on wowwiki.com - you can pick up some great tips on how to play. thottbot.com can help with info on quests and skills.
4) Don't be afraid to work with others - it can help get past some of those difficult spots.
5) Don't take it too seriously - you're there to have fun. If something's frustrating... step back, take a break, and try it later.
uh...never ever buy stuff (weapons, armor) from NPCs.
don be afraid to ask for help in the main channels
join a guild early, if you have a fren playing already and who is in a guild. guildies help a lot
if u are playing a hunter or warrior...can add me in msn at y_liming@hotmail.com basically i can answer everything regarding these 2 class. i been playing ever since the beta
have fun...but control urself.
cheers
Dude quit while you still have a chance. You will get sucked in and not have a life. endofstory.
Do you have any advice on making out?
I love my boyfriend and all,
but sometimes things get a little dull.
Any advice on how to spice it up?Do you have any advice on making out?
use some paprika and hot sauce and cayenne pepper.Do you have any advice on making out?
yep =]
by makin out u mean??
Well get ur hand and rest it on his chest 4 like 2 seconds and then bring it down all the way down his stomach till u reach the top of his pants and stop
this'll make him go 4 da hunt hehehe
also as yous are making out hold ur arm low like just above his bum guys supposed 2 like that i herd
and also give his cheek a brush when yous are kissing
hope this helps =]
lick his teeth, suck/gently bite his lip and pull away from his face for a second and glare him in the eye. This really gets me fired up. Makes you seem like some sort of animal.
Go out at some other place than you routine.
If you are daring enough, some public place would spice that up.
just make him think you really want to make out and get allover him
but sometimes things get a little dull.
Any advice on how to spice it up?Do you have any advice on making out?
use some paprika and hot sauce and cayenne pepper.Do you have any advice on making out?
yep =]
by makin out u mean??
Well get ur hand and rest it on his chest 4 like 2 seconds and then bring it down all the way down his stomach till u reach the top of his pants and stop
this'll make him go 4 da hunt hehehe
also as yous are making out hold ur arm low like just above his bum guys supposed 2 like that i herd
and also give his cheek a brush when yous are kissing
hope this helps =]
lick his teeth, suck/gently bite his lip and pull away from his face for a second and glare him in the eye. This really gets me fired up. Makes you seem like some sort of animal.
Go out at some other place than you routine.
If you are daring enough, some public place would spice that up.
just make him think you really want to make out and get allover him
What is the best advice you can give to someone?
tell yourself that you never look back cause you're not going that wayWhat is the best advice you can give to someone?
Never give advice to anyone..Let them learn from their own mistakes!
Never give advice to anyone..Let them learn from their own mistakes!
What to do if you found out your child did drugs? advice?
I found out my teen child useing drugs; some light some serious all illegal. My child doesn't know that I know, how should I approach this and handle this situation?? any advice?? thanksWhat to do if you found out your child did drugs? advice?
maybe just talk to your kid about drugs and how they afect everything... weight, mental health, physical health etc etc..
i wouldnt just like attack your kid, because im pretty sure my mum knows im on drugs, and if she did that then i would become a complete rebel and proabably do it more.
so mayeb just warn them about risks and stuff liek that, go talk to your gp or counseller and ask for some tactics about how to approach it.
goodluck
xxWhat to do if you found out your child did drugs? advice?
i know this is hard for you and very scarey. you see the thing is that you are in a very nasty situation. what you have to is sit your child down for a talk not a screaming match. talk to him and tell him that you know he does drugs and that you are there for him and that you do not like what he is doing and explain the dangers, but what ever you do, do not loose your temper because your childs behaviour is unpredictable because of the drugs he may run away or something silly. ask him why he is doing it and see if between the two of you that you could come up with a solution, see maybe its his friends sucking him into the hell hole and he wants to give it up. when a person starts drugs and drinking all you can really do is pray that they will be strong enough to come out of it and they will realise that what they are doing is not any good. i am answering this as an ex drug addict my parents sorted me out by not fighting me all the time but being there for me to help me pick up the peices. i was horrible to them but they still showed me they loved me and still cared for me, thats imperative to show your child you love them and care no matter what they do.. good luck anyway i hope he sorts himself out
As someone who's experimented before...
To begin with, don't be too harsh, instead, try to understand. If you've never tried anything yourself, there's an entire world that your child has probably experienced that you never have. As far as drugs go, my general advice is to focus on harm reduction. In many cases, the drugs themselves do far less damage than reactions from family and the law. Some drugs, such as pot, are relatively harmless--more harmless, in fact, than legal drugs like alcohol or nicotine. If the substance isn't physically addictive and there's no risk of ODing, then there really isn't a problem. Experimentation can be healthy and natural, but moderation is key, as are factors such as set and setting. Honestly, it really depends on which drugs you're talking about. If your kid's into heroin, you've probably got a problem. But on a similar note, I've never met a violent stoner, and in my own experience, they're some of the most accepting and relaxed people I've encountered. What you do need to stress, however, as a parent, is that decisions that your child makes don't just affect them, but the larger world. Make sure your child knows the consequences of drug use, but at the same time, don't demonize it, or you won't be able to relate to your child. I'd also recommend doing some research of your own into the substances in question. A lot of the risks associated with drug use can be avoided if people would first take the time to do their research, and take into consideration such things as set and setting.
Quite frankly, I'd love it if I could be able to talk with people who are close to me about experiences that I've had. The fact that someone chooses to use drugs doesn't make that person evil. There's a major difference between casual/recreational use and flat-out abuse. Thomas Jefferson smoked weed, and he didn't turn out too badly.
Above all, make sure your child knows that you're there for him/her, no matter what happens, and that you'll not stop loving them or being there for support, no matter what happens.
Take time to sit and discuss it - I can tell you will because otherwise you'd have gone mad, tied them in the closet and wouldn't write the question! But you probably want to look into why they're taking them. Depression, bipolar, repressed trauma like sexual abuse, abandonment from one or both parents - all these heebie-jeebie things can makes drugs a lot more of a problem for teens than the normal enough experimenting. I'd do some investigation and soul searching before I'd appraoch them. But once you sit with them, be prepared to get anything from an emotional avalanche to a cold too-cool response that you mightn't like. So brace yourself. And also, no matter what they tell you - even the most valid reason i nthe world, make sure it's clear that their behaviour isn't tolerated or acceptable. you're the parent and you have a responsibility to put up boundaries and accountable measures. If they can't be trusted in certain company, alone etc, then you need to remove those privledges until they earn your trust. Just make sure it's a reasonable compromise and they know they're loved because they're becoming a young adult and deserve respect as another human, as well as a way out from a loving parent.
Id start with showing him/her consequences of drug use. Physical, emotional, and legal. How they drugs he/she took are physically damaging to the user, how they ruin relationships with friends and family and prevent new healthy relationships from starting, and legal troubble.. All three consequences are LIFETIME consequences... I was arrested a single time. I lost 90% of my friends, my job, but luckily i have a loving family that has never left my side. But I'll forvever be inconvienced when filling out a job aplication, and when I'll never talk to old friends again. If you can get the point across to your child and truely have them understand that a moments decision can cause a lifetime of burden, they just mite go about things a little differently.. Make sure they look you in the eye. If they look down the whole time, 50% of what you say will not stick. But always be weary in the future. If its a serisous problem, you'll know when it may be going on again. Its been said that rehab the first time is a gift. And the second time is a *****. Stay strong, best of luck. Anything you do will be positive.
i think you should just sit down and talk about them with you child. don't tell him/her that you know because s/he will clam up and maybe go of the rails thinking that you have been snooping. just say that you think that s/he is at that age now where you think you should talk about them and maybe ask if s/he has tried them. if s/he says no them accept that and just go on to ask if they know the dangers or using illegal substances. also find website and find out about other peoples stories about how people have died from using them.
im a teenager and i have to say
one of the WORST feelings is letting your parents down
but i totally believe in tought love because
telling kids to stop, doesnt help
so my opinion is to send him or her to a
harsh teen rehab program
and let them know how dissappointed you are in them
and it might make an exmple for the other kids
he/she does drugs with.
as a teenager thats what i would want my mother to do
if i did drugs
Beat 'em!
Actually, I'm kidding. You should look at this in a rational way. The kid, who I imagine is somewhere between thirteen and sixteen? is probably under alot of peer pressure at school and I doubt is a hype. You should sit the kid down, explain what could come from this. Show him/her examples...pictures, perhaps, online, of druggies and what they come to look like. Give him/her a first hand look at this.
If its experimentational drugs like pot or mushrooms, don't be harsh: those, unless laced with some chemical or other drug, are absolutely not harmful on the body in the least and have no long-term effects, negative or positive. But if its something like LSD, Cocaine, heroine...you should definately give the kid a long lecture.
Now, I'm not a parent. I'm twenty years old and I've never done a drug in my life: I'm looking at this through the eyes of someone who feels very deeply about their loved ones (future children included), and I'm telling you what I would do. Reason with him/her, teach him/her what this can do. But don't put a leash on the kid unless there is no other choice. Make him/her see your side of the situtation. And always, always make sure the child knows you love him/her more then anything: that bond, if all else fails, is your last hope of getting through to them to stress this fact. You should never, ever make your kid feel like you don't love them and if you come down on the kid with an iron fist, that is whats going to happen. Get the kid involved in some after school programs, keep them busy. Let them play more games, hell, get them a new game system. I've always been into writing myself, fictional stories about dragons and all that fun stuff...
Anyways, I digress. Examples. Show this kid what will happen if he/she continues to use drugs (assuming they're bad drugs) and teach them that there are many, many crowds a kid can fit into. The 'in' crowd that does drugs is not the one to want to fit into, at all. Personally, I prefer the nerds!
my mom woop my *** when she found out that i was on drugs,and alcohol and ecstacy and speed etc...and i turned out good.... not great.you should punish or woop the kids ***.teach him a lesson he wont forget.
beat the fuc***S
just tell them u no, ur not gona stop them
if theyre in control tho leave them
i use hard drugs and im fine, i do well in college and im in good health, drugs arent as bad as the media makes them out to be
There are agencies who deals with this problem don't be agfraid they are professionals. Better do it now than be late- - - drug eaters heal themselves. God bless you and your child.
I would sit and talk to them and lock them in their room for the next 3mnths.
how bout....beatin hiz azz! lol
I would say that you need to indeed talk to your kid.
And no use delaying it at all.
Just go ahead......acne scars treatment
maybe just talk to your kid about drugs and how they afect everything... weight, mental health, physical health etc etc..
i wouldnt just like attack your kid, because im pretty sure my mum knows im on drugs, and if she did that then i would become a complete rebel and proabably do it more.
so mayeb just warn them about risks and stuff liek that, go talk to your gp or counseller and ask for some tactics about how to approach it.
goodluck
xxWhat to do if you found out your child did drugs? advice?
i know this is hard for you and very scarey. you see the thing is that you are in a very nasty situation. what you have to is sit your child down for a talk not a screaming match. talk to him and tell him that you know he does drugs and that you are there for him and that you do not like what he is doing and explain the dangers, but what ever you do, do not loose your temper because your childs behaviour is unpredictable because of the drugs he may run away or something silly. ask him why he is doing it and see if between the two of you that you could come up with a solution, see maybe its his friends sucking him into the hell hole and he wants to give it up. when a person starts drugs and drinking all you can really do is pray that they will be strong enough to come out of it and they will realise that what they are doing is not any good. i am answering this as an ex drug addict my parents sorted me out by not fighting me all the time but being there for me to help me pick up the peices. i was horrible to them but they still showed me they loved me and still cared for me, thats imperative to show your child you love them and care no matter what they do.. good luck anyway i hope he sorts himself out
As someone who's experimented before...
To begin with, don't be too harsh, instead, try to understand. If you've never tried anything yourself, there's an entire world that your child has probably experienced that you never have. As far as drugs go, my general advice is to focus on harm reduction. In many cases, the drugs themselves do far less damage than reactions from family and the law. Some drugs, such as pot, are relatively harmless--more harmless, in fact, than legal drugs like alcohol or nicotine. If the substance isn't physically addictive and there's no risk of ODing, then there really isn't a problem. Experimentation can be healthy and natural, but moderation is key, as are factors such as set and setting. Honestly, it really depends on which drugs you're talking about. If your kid's into heroin, you've probably got a problem. But on a similar note, I've never met a violent stoner, and in my own experience, they're some of the most accepting and relaxed people I've encountered. What you do need to stress, however, as a parent, is that decisions that your child makes don't just affect them, but the larger world. Make sure your child knows the consequences of drug use, but at the same time, don't demonize it, or you won't be able to relate to your child. I'd also recommend doing some research of your own into the substances in question. A lot of the risks associated with drug use can be avoided if people would first take the time to do their research, and take into consideration such things as set and setting.
Quite frankly, I'd love it if I could be able to talk with people who are close to me about experiences that I've had. The fact that someone chooses to use drugs doesn't make that person evil. There's a major difference between casual/recreational use and flat-out abuse. Thomas Jefferson smoked weed, and he didn't turn out too badly.
Above all, make sure your child knows that you're there for him/her, no matter what happens, and that you'll not stop loving them or being there for support, no matter what happens.
Take time to sit and discuss it - I can tell you will because otherwise you'd have gone mad, tied them in the closet and wouldn't write the question! But you probably want to look into why they're taking them. Depression, bipolar, repressed trauma like sexual abuse, abandonment from one or both parents - all these heebie-jeebie things can makes drugs a lot more of a problem for teens than the normal enough experimenting. I'd do some investigation and soul searching before I'd appraoch them. But once you sit with them, be prepared to get anything from an emotional avalanche to a cold too-cool response that you mightn't like. So brace yourself. And also, no matter what they tell you - even the most valid reason i nthe world, make sure it's clear that their behaviour isn't tolerated or acceptable. you're the parent and you have a responsibility to put up boundaries and accountable measures. If they can't be trusted in certain company, alone etc, then you need to remove those privledges until they earn your trust. Just make sure it's a reasonable compromise and they know they're loved because they're becoming a young adult and deserve respect as another human, as well as a way out from a loving parent.
Id start with showing him/her consequences of drug use. Physical, emotional, and legal. How they drugs he/she took are physically damaging to the user, how they ruin relationships with friends and family and prevent new healthy relationships from starting, and legal troubble.. All three consequences are LIFETIME consequences... I was arrested a single time. I lost 90% of my friends, my job, but luckily i have a loving family that has never left my side. But I'll forvever be inconvienced when filling out a job aplication, and when I'll never talk to old friends again. If you can get the point across to your child and truely have them understand that a moments decision can cause a lifetime of burden, they just mite go about things a little differently.. Make sure they look you in the eye. If they look down the whole time, 50% of what you say will not stick. But always be weary in the future. If its a serisous problem, you'll know when it may be going on again. Its been said that rehab the first time is a gift. And the second time is a *****. Stay strong, best of luck. Anything you do will be positive.
i think you should just sit down and talk about them with you child. don't tell him/her that you know because s/he will clam up and maybe go of the rails thinking that you have been snooping. just say that you think that s/he is at that age now where you think you should talk about them and maybe ask if s/he has tried them. if s/he says no them accept that and just go on to ask if they know the dangers or using illegal substances. also find website and find out about other peoples stories about how people have died from using them.
im a teenager and i have to say
one of the WORST feelings is letting your parents down
but i totally believe in tought love because
telling kids to stop, doesnt help
so my opinion is to send him or her to a
harsh teen rehab program
and let them know how dissappointed you are in them
and it might make an exmple for the other kids
he/she does drugs with.
as a teenager thats what i would want my mother to do
if i did drugs
Beat 'em!
Actually, I'm kidding. You should look at this in a rational way. The kid, who I imagine is somewhere between thirteen and sixteen? is probably under alot of peer pressure at school and I doubt is a hype. You should sit the kid down, explain what could come from this. Show him/her examples...pictures, perhaps, online, of druggies and what they come to look like. Give him/her a first hand look at this.
If its experimentational drugs like pot or mushrooms, don't be harsh: those, unless laced with some chemical or other drug, are absolutely not harmful on the body in the least and have no long-term effects, negative or positive. But if its something like LSD, Cocaine, heroine...you should definately give the kid a long lecture.
Now, I'm not a parent. I'm twenty years old and I've never done a drug in my life: I'm looking at this through the eyes of someone who feels very deeply about their loved ones (future children included), and I'm telling you what I would do. Reason with him/her, teach him/her what this can do. But don't put a leash on the kid unless there is no other choice. Make him/her see your side of the situtation. And always, always make sure the child knows you love him/her more then anything: that bond, if all else fails, is your last hope of getting through to them to stress this fact. You should never, ever make your kid feel like you don't love them and if you come down on the kid with an iron fist, that is whats going to happen. Get the kid involved in some after school programs, keep them busy. Let them play more games, hell, get them a new game system. I've always been into writing myself, fictional stories about dragons and all that fun stuff...
Anyways, I digress. Examples. Show this kid what will happen if he/she continues to use drugs (assuming they're bad drugs) and teach them that there are many, many crowds a kid can fit into. The 'in' crowd that does drugs is not the one to want to fit into, at all. Personally, I prefer the nerds!
my mom woop my *** when she found out that i was on drugs,and alcohol and ecstacy and speed etc...and i turned out good.... not great.you should punish or woop the kids ***.teach him a lesson he wont forget.
beat the fuc***S
just tell them u no, ur not gona stop them
if theyre in control tho leave them
i use hard drugs and im fine, i do well in college and im in good health, drugs arent as bad as the media makes them out to be
There are agencies who deals with this problem don't be agfraid they are professionals. Better do it now than be late- - - drug eaters heal themselves. God bless you and your child.
I would sit and talk to them and lock them in their room for the next 3mnths.
how bout....beatin hiz azz! lol
I would say that you need to indeed talk to your kid.
And no use delaying it at all.
Just go ahead......
What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
hahaha..like lawrence of Arabia said :P
be realistic,marhama,don't try to change your husband to the way you want,but adopt yourself to your differences....so he can do that too.and learn to choose ur battles:P no seriously there are some time when it's best to let things go,if u pick on everything,then u'll rarely be happy,nor he will.
i advice you to remember how's ur relationship with ur husband is observed by Allah,yet don't give up the rights that Allah gave u...you are your husband's ''partner'' not a slave.
and for the brother is to fear Allah in how he treats his wife,because he'll be asked about her by Allah,and to be patient and not to ask her more that she can bare.What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
Dear Marhama,salam for you. My advice for brothers and sisters who are going to get married are :
1)select your would be spose whether he is handsome or she is beautiful physically is easier to be seen
2)select your would be spouse whether he/she is a descendant of good parents or bad parents
3)select your would be spouse whether he/she is wealthy person or a poor one or he/she has a permanent job with enough income or not for raising a family aspecially for man
4)select your would be spouse whether his/her islamic religion and his/her faith is in good or bad practice.
The 4 requirements are said by Muhammad pbuh in his hadith.But the most important please choose the best practice of his/her religion especially for a would be husband,because he will be the leader of the family.The wealth can be searched for,the handsome body will be bad in his old age,bad ancestor can be improved.But his religion will last longer until died and it will help the whole family to heaven.Insya Allah May Allah bless you all.What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
“The best wife is the one who knows how to create harmony in her marriage and strikes a balance between obeying and respecting her husband and expressing her own strong personality.”
Some of these characteristics and attitudes are those of which a wise mother advised her daughter before marriage, which is comprehensive advice. We ask Allaah to help you to achieve this. That mother said to her daughter:
“O my daughter, you are leaving your house in which you grew up, and going to live with a man whom you do not know, a companion whom you are unfamiliar with. Be like a slave woman to him and he will be like a slave to you. Remember ten characteristics which will be a stored treasure for you:
The first and second are to be devoted to him and be content, listen to him and obey.
The third and the fourth are to consider his nose and eyes; do not let him see anything ugly of you, or let him smell anything but a good fragrance.
The fifth and the sixth are consider the time of his sleeping and eating, for hunger burns and disturbance of sleep causes anger.
The seventh and the eighth are to look after his wealth and to take care of his family and his dependents.
The ninth and the tenth are to look after his wealth and take care of his dependents.”
- respect his/her family, this is the root of a person, you take care of the root, the trees becomes nice.
- learn to communicate with the person, and laugh with him/her.
- forgive
- if you are a guy, don't have too much sex, because it will decline later and she will notice the difference, and may doubt your strength.
- don't say ';i love you'; too much, it loses its value.
- don't live in a house that takes 60% of both of your income.
- put Allah before the two of you.
- be clean. with cleaning it comes freshness.
- miss each other sometime, by taking vacation from marriage once in a while, such as the husband go for a business trip. you will miss each other again.
as long as both of your deen is in the right place nothing can come in between, because one will live the life as it says in the quran in how to teat your wife or how the wife to be with her husband. i gave a book called the ideal muslmah for the wife and the ideal muslim for the guy, it shows how to be.
be willing to share everything.
always be open and honest.
be patient through the hard times.
don't forget Allah.
set common goals.
fights will happen and your feelings will be hurt. When it happens, try to resolve the problem rather than letting it go.
When you fight, never insult each other intentionally.
Don't give up easily if you're having problems.
Have fun together...watch a movie, go out for dinner, go shopping together, play a game...do something you both can enjoy together.
be realistic, know that marriage is a partnership, be flexible but not a door mat, be patient, and above all make sure you marry Mr right, not Mr right now
congratulation's
remember that allah always comes first. Do not let anyone get in your way. Live a healthy and Islamic life with your spouse. If you have children raise them on the manners and rules of Islam
Patience....
patience.......
I don't think you understand....so listen one more time
patience......
love for all, hatred for none
don't give any advice if not asked. As the saying goes ';if it ain't broken,don't fix it';
Walk on the path of Islam
no matter what happens
then InshaAllah you will truly be Sucessful in life and after death
Yes. Find the book: ';Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus';. It's in very easy English.
close ur eyes on the mistake of ur wife, and love her as much as she shy.
be realistic,marhama,don't try to change your husband to the way you want,but adopt yourself to your differences....so he can do that too.and learn to choose ur battles:P no seriously there are some time when it's best to let things go,if u pick on everything,then u'll rarely be happy,nor he will.
i advice you to remember how's ur relationship with ur husband is observed by Allah,yet don't give up the rights that Allah gave u...you are your husband's ''partner'' not a slave.
and for the brother is to fear Allah in how he treats his wife,because he'll be asked about her by Allah,and to be patient and not to ask her more that she can bare.What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
Dear Marhama,salam for you. My advice for brothers and sisters who are going to get married are :
1)select your would be spose whether he is handsome or she is beautiful physically is easier to be seen
2)select your would be spouse whether he/she is a descendant of good parents or bad parents
3)select your would be spouse whether he/she is wealthy person or a poor one or he/she has a permanent job with enough income or not for raising a family aspecially for man
4)select your would be spouse whether his/her islamic religion and his/her faith is in good or bad practice.
The 4 requirements are said by Muhammad pbuh in his hadith.But the most important please choose the best practice of his/her religion especially for a would be husband,because he will be the leader of the family.The wealth can be searched for,the handsome body will be bad in his old age,bad ancestor can be improved.But his religion will last longer until died and it will help the whole family to heaven.Insya Allah May Allah bless you all.What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
“The best wife is the one who knows how to create harmony in her marriage and strikes a balance between obeying and respecting her husband and expressing her own strong personality.”
Some of these characteristics and attitudes are those of which a wise mother advised her daughter before marriage, which is comprehensive advice. We ask Allaah to help you to achieve this. That mother said to her daughter:
“O my daughter, you are leaving your house in which you grew up, and going to live with a man whom you do not know, a companion whom you are unfamiliar with. Be like a slave woman to him and he will be like a slave to you. Remember ten characteristics which will be a stored treasure for you:
The first and second are to be devoted to him and be content, listen to him and obey.
The third and the fourth are to consider his nose and eyes; do not let him see anything ugly of you, or let him smell anything but a good fragrance.
The fifth and the sixth are consider the time of his sleeping and eating, for hunger burns and disturbance of sleep causes anger.
The seventh and the eighth are to look after his wealth and to take care of his family and his dependents.
The ninth and the tenth are to look after his wealth and take care of his dependents.”
- respect his/her family, this is the root of a person, you take care of the root, the trees becomes nice.
- learn to communicate with the person, and laugh with him/her.
- forgive
- if you are a guy, don't have too much sex, because it will decline later and she will notice the difference, and may doubt your strength.
- don't say ';i love you'; too much, it loses its value.
- don't live in a house that takes 60% of both of your income.
- put Allah before the two of you.
- be clean. with cleaning it comes freshness.
- miss each other sometime, by taking vacation from marriage once in a while, such as the husband go for a business trip. you will miss each other again.
as long as both of your deen is in the right place nothing can come in between, because one will live the life as it says in the quran in how to teat your wife or how the wife to be with her husband. i gave a book called the ideal muslmah for the wife and the ideal muslim for the guy, it shows how to be.
be willing to share everything.
always be open and honest.
be patient through the hard times.
don't forget Allah.
set common goals.
fights will happen and your feelings will be hurt. When it happens, try to resolve the problem rather than letting it go.
When you fight, never insult each other intentionally.
Don't give up easily if you're having problems.
Have fun together...watch a movie, go out for dinner, go shopping together, play a game...do something you both can enjoy together.
be realistic, know that marriage is a partnership, be flexible but not a door mat, be patient, and above all make sure you marry Mr right, not Mr right now
congratulation's
remember that allah always comes first. Do not let anyone get in your way. Live a healthy and Islamic life with your spouse. If you have children raise them on the manners and rules of Islam
Patience....
patience.......
I don't think you understand....so listen one more time
patience......
love for all, hatred for none
don't give any advice if not asked. As the saying goes ';if it ain't broken,don't fix it';
Walk on the path of Islam
no matter what happens
then InshaAllah you will truly be Sucessful in life and after death
Yes. Find the book: ';Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus';. It's in very easy English.
close ur eyes on the mistake of ur wife, and love her as much as she shy.
Have you got any advice on women's self defence in North London?
That is where, when,any other advice and how?Have you got any advice on women's self defence in North London?
never assume the attacker will always be male. so practise hitting the breast and striking the female groin. then practise striking the knees,throat ect. because striking the male groin is over rated and you cant depend on it. so practise to strike other areasHave you got any advice on women's self defence in North London?
For advice I would suggest aim for the knees, groin, neck and eyes when striking and use trips, throws and slams that hit their heads off the ground. Also many men learn woman's self defense because all it is are dirty fighting techniques.
http://www.bobbreen.com/
Check out this site. Bob has an Amazing CV and has a very good linage to Bruce Lee, he is a Student under Guru Dan Inosanto one of Bruce's closest students. Bob has a very good club. I trained under one of his students for a few years and found this very positive towards my martial arts.
and if the above doesnt take your fancy check out the google results for self defence in london below.
http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en%26amp;q=w鈥?/a>
hope this helps
go with the obvious stuff, knee to the groin, poke the eyes, (killin me 2 say the nxt one) nails n hair-grabbin...go for the accessible weak points such as the nose, throat and joints like knees...dont hang around...give em wateva they want n run...if they pull a knife on ye, step INTO the attack...same wit any attack, it gives them less roo to manover or get any decent velocity or power goin and they will probs drop the knife or at least will get your arm as opposed to your head...sign up 4 a class or wteva...it doesnt matter how long you've done classes tho cz when ye do get attacked ye still flinch away and panic but this styuff shud help...
i dont know about north london. but there was a guy in bournemouth called shaun osborne. he teaches something called silat. the way he teaches it is pretty simular to womens self defence so you might want to give him a call. he looks a bit like maggie smith out of harry potter, but top bloke... yeah
The System that they teach in the Tao Wing Chun Academy i found is very applicable to women and they offer a 30 day free membership.
www.wingchun-escrima.co.uk
Krav Maga classes fast effective self defence techniques great for fitness too
err your a man though?
never assume the attacker will always be male. so practise hitting the breast and striking the female groin. then practise striking the knees,throat ect. because striking the male groin is over rated and you cant depend on it. so practise to strike other areasHave you got any advice on women's self defence in North London?
For advice I would suggest aim for the knees, groin, neck and eyes when striking and use trips, throws and slams that hit their heads off the ground. Also many men learn woman's self defense because all it is are dirty fighting techniques.
http://www.bobbreen.com/
Check out this site. Bob has an Amazing CV and has a very good linage to Bruce Lee, he is a Student under Guru Dan Inosanto one of Bruce's closest students. Bob has a very good club. I trained under one of his students for a few years and found this very positive towards my martial arts.
and if the above doesnt take your fancy check out the google results for self defence in london below.
http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en%26amp;q=w鈥?/a>
hope this helps
go with the obvious stuff, knee to the groin, poke the eyes, (killin me 2 say the nxt one) nails n hair-grabbin...go for the accessible weak points such as the nose, throat and joints like knees...dont hang around...give em wateva they want n run...if they pull a knife on ye, step INTO the attack...same wit any attack, it gives them less roo to manover or get any decent velocity or power goin and they will probs drop the knife or at least will get your arm as opposed to your head...sign up 4 a class or wteva...it doesnt matter how long you've done classes tho cz when ye do get attacked ye still flinch away and panic but this styuff shud help...
i dont know about north london. but there was a guy in bournemouth called shaun osborne. he teaches something called silat. the way he teaches it is pretty simular to womens self defence so you might want to give him a call. he looks a bit like maggie smith out of harry potter, but top bloke... yeah
The System that they teach in the Tao Wing Chun Academy i found is very applicable to women and they offer a 30 day free membership.
www.wingchun-escrima.co.uk
Krav Maga classes fast effective self defence techniques great for fitness too
err your a man though?
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