What advice would you give a friend who was in a controlling, emotionally abusive marriage?

She says she tells him she's not in love with him anymore and that she wants to leave but he takes it as a threat and won't let her leave. It's dangerous b/c he has so much control over her and I'm scared for her. I don't know what to doWhat advice would you give a friend who was in a controlling, emotionally abusive marriage?
She should leave when he goes to work...and NOT WARN HIM ABOUT HER PLANS!!! He cannot hold her hostage. She can call police to get herself safely escorted from the home...or leave when he is not there. Either way, she has to keep her mouth shut about what she's planning to doWhat advice would you give a friend who was in a controlling, emotionally abusive marriage?
Many variables here....are there children to consider? Do her friends and family know? Does she work? Have her own money?





I would advise her to seek a women's shelter while she makes plans for the next phase of her life. I would tell her to start hining money - she will need it. If he has been abusive in the past, she should retain an atty and file a TRO. Right now - Someone should always knows where she is and her plans - so as to alert authorities in the event of a sudden change. Maybe that person can be you??
she has to leave no matter what...these situations are so touchy...but you jave to get her help NOW. it will not get better. get a plan together and get her out...and get her somewhere...where he cant come and find her....then she will need a therapist to talk to as well once she is settled...
For years I've been trying to convince my friend to leave this man and she won't. Now I don`t say anything anymore, she will have to hit bottom to understand. When she does I will be there, till then I can`t force her.
I think you can try to help her, but ultimately it's going to be her decision.
She needs to go to a women's shelter ASAP. Good luck.
I did the same thing. Get the number of a women's shelter and tell your friend that you have it anytime she needs it and then just be there for her. Sometimes you have to distance yourself so that it doesn't drag you down..