What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?

hahaha..like lawrence of Arabia said :P





be realistic,marhama,don't try to change your husband to the way you want,but adopt yourself to your differences....so he can do that too.and learn to choose ur battles:P no seriously there are some time when it's best to let things go,if u pick on everything,then u'll rarely be happy,nor he will.





i advice you to remember how's ur relationship with ur husband is observed by Allah,yet don't give up the rights that Allah gave u...you are your husband's ''partner'' not a slave.





and for the brother is to fear Allah in how he treats his wife,because he'll be asked about her by Allah,and to be patient and not to ask her more that she can bare.What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
Dear Marhama,salam for you. My advice for brothers and sisters who are going to get married are :


1)select your would be spose whether he is handsome or she is beautiful physically is easier to be seen


2)select your would be spouse whether he/she is a descendant of good parents or bad parents


3)select your would be spouse whether he/she is wealthy person or a poor one or he/she has a permanent job with enough income or not for raising a family aspecially for man


4)select your would be spouse whether his/her islamic religion and his/her faith is in good or bad practice.


The 4 requirements are said by Muhammad pbuh in his hadith.But the most important please choose the best practice of his/her religion especially for a would be husband,because he will be the leader of the family.The wealth can be searched for,the handsome body will be bad in his old age,bad ancestor can be improved.But his religion will last longer until died and it will help the whole family to heaven.Insya Allah May Allah bless you all.What is the best advice you can give to your Muslim sister/brother who is going to get married?
“The best wife is the one who knows how to create harmony in her marriage and strikes a balance between obeying and respecting her husband and expressing her own strong personality.”





Some of these characteristics and attitudes are those of which a wise mother advised her daughter before marriage, which is comprehensive advice. We ask Allaah to help you to achieve this. That mother said to her daughter:





“O my daughter, you are leaving your house in which you grew up, and going to live with a man whom you do not know, a companion whom you are unfamiliar with. Be like a slave woman to him and he will be like a slave to you. Remember ten characteristics which will be a stored treasure for you:





The first and second are to be devoted to him and be content, listen to him and obey.





The third and the fourth are to consider his nose and eyes; do not let him see anything ugly of you, or let him smell anything but a good fragrance.





The fifth and the sixth are consider the time of his sleeping and eating, for hunger burns and disturbance of sleep causes anger.





The seventh and the eighth are to look after his wealth and to take care of his family and his dependents.





The ninth and the tenth are to look after his wealth and take care of his dependents.”
- respect his/her family, this is the root of a person, you take care of the root, the trees becomes nice.


- learn to communicate with the person, and laugh with him/her.


- forgive


- if you are a guy, don't have too much sex, because it will decline later and she will notice the difference, and may doubt your strength.


- don't say ';i love you'; too much, it loses its value.


- don't live in a house that takes 60% of both of your income.


- put Allah before the two of you.


- be clean. with cleaning it comes freshness.


- miss each other sometime, by taking vacation from marriage once in a while, such as the husband go for a business trip. you will miss each other again.
as long as both of your deen is in the right place nothing can come in between, because one will live the life as it says in the quran in how to teat your wife or how the wife to be with her husband. i gave a book called the ideal muslmah for the wife and the ideal muslim for the guy, it shows how to be.
be willing to share everything.


always be open and honest.


be patient through the hard times.


don't forget Allah.


set common goals.


fights will happen and your feelings will be hurt. When it happens, try to resolve the problem rather than letting it go.


When you fight, never insult each other intentionally.


Don't give up easily if you're having problems.


Have fun together...watch a movie, go out for dinner, go shopping together, play a game...do something you both can enjoy together.
be realistic, know that marriage is a partnership, be flexible but not a door mat, be patient, and above all make sure you marry Mr right, not Mr right now
congratulation's


remember that allah always comes first. Do not let anyone get in your way. Live a healthy and Islamic life with your spouse. If you have children raise them on the manners and rules of Islam
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love for all, hatred for none
don't give any advice if not asked. As the saying goes ';if it ain't broken,don't fix it';
Walk on the path of Islam





no matter what happens





then InshaAllah you will truly be Sucessful in life and after death
Yes. Find the book: ';Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus';. It's in very easy English.
close ur eyes on the mistake of ur wife, and love her as much as she shy.