maybe just talk to your kid about drugs and how they afect everything... weight, mental health, physical health etc etc..
i wouldnt just like attack your kid, because im pretty sure my mum knows im on drugs, and if she did that then i would become a complete rebel and proabably do it more.
so mayeb just warn them about risks and stuff liek that, go talk to your gp or counseller and ask for some tactics about how to approach it.
goodluck
xxWhat to do if you found out your child did drugs? advice?
i know this is hard for you and very scarey. you see the thing is that you are in a very nasty situation. what you have to is sit your child down for a talk not a screaming match. talk to him and tell him that you know he does drugs and that you are there for him and that you do not like what he is doing and explain the dangers, but what ever you do, do not loose your temper because your childs behaviour is unpredictable because of the drugs he may run away or something silly. ask him why he is doing it and see if between the two of you that you could come up with a solution, see maybe its his friends sucking him into the hell hole and he wants to give it up. when a person starts drugs and drinking all you can really do is pray that they will be strong enough to come out of it and they will realise that what they are doing is not any good. i am answering this as an ex drug addict my parents sorted me out by not fighting me all the time but being there for me to help me pick up the peices. i was horrible to them but they still showed me they loved me and still cared for me, thats imperative to show your child you love them and care no matter what they do.. good luck anyway i hope he sorts himself out
As someone who's experimented before...
To begin with, don't be too harsh, instead, try to understand. If you've never tried anything yourself, there's an entire world that your child has probably experienced that you never have. As far as drugs go, my general advice is to focus on harm reduction. In many cases, the drugs themselves do far less damage than reactions from family and the law. Some drugs, such as pot, are relatively harmless--more harmless, in fact, than legal drugs like alcohol or nicotine. If the substance isn't physically addictive and there's no risk of ODing, then there really isn't a problem. Experimentation can be healthy and natural, but moderation is key, as are factors such as set and setting. Honestly, it really depends on which drugs you're talking about. If your kid's into heroin, you've probably got a problem. But on a similar note, I've never met a violent stoner, and in my own experience, they're some of the most accepting and relaxed people I've encountered. What you do need to stress, however, as a parent, is that decisions that your child makes don't just affect them, but the larger world. Make sure your child knows the consequences of drug use, but at the same time, don't demonize it, or you won't be able to relate to your child. I'd also recommend doing some research of your own into the substances in question. A lot of the risks associated with drug use can be avoided if people would first take the time to do their research, and take into consideration such things as set and setting.
Quite frankly, I'd love it if I could be able to talk with people who are close to me about experiences that I've had. The fact that someone chooses to use drugs doesn't make that person evil. There's a major difference between casual/recreational use and flat-out abuse. Thomas Jefferson smoked weed, and he didn't turn out too badly.
Above all, make sure your child knows that you're there for him/her, no matter what happens, and that you'll not stop loving them or being there for support, no matter what happens.
Take time to sit and discuss it - I can tell you will because otherwise you'd have gone mad, tied them in the closet and wouldn't write the question! But you probably want to look into why they're taking them. Depression, bipolar, repressed trauma like sexual abuse, abandonment from one or both parents - all these heebie-jeebie things can makes drugs a lot more of a problem for teens than the normal enough experimenting. I'd do some investigation and soul searching before I'd appraoch them. But once you sit with them, be prepared to get anything from an emotional avalanche to a cold too-cool response that you mightn't like. So brace yourself. And also, no matter what they tell you - even the most valid reason i nthe world, make sure it's clear that their behaviour isn't tolerated or acceptable. you're the parent and you have a responsibility to put up boundaries and accountable measures. If they can't be trusted in certain company, alone etc, then you need to remove those privledges until they earn your trust. Just make sure it's a reasonable compromise and they know they're loved because they're becoming a young adult and deserve respect as another human, as well as a way out from a loving parent.
Id start with showing him/her consequences of drug use. Physical, emotional, and legal. How they drugs he/she took are physically damaging to the user, how they ruin relationships with friends and family and prevent new healthy relationships from starting, and legal troubble.. All three consequences are LIFETIME consequences... I was arrested a single time. I lost 90% of my friends, my job, but luckily i have a loving family that has never left my side. But I'll forvever be inconvienced when filling out a job aplication, and when I'll never talk to old friends again. If you can get the point across to your child and truely have them understand that a moments decision can cause a lifetime of burden, they just mite go about things a little differently.. Make sure they look you in the eye. If they look down the whole time, 50% of what you say will not stick. But always be weary in the future. If its a serisous problem, you'll know when it may be going on again. Its been said that rehab the first time is a gift. And the second time is a *****. Stay strong, best of luck. Anything you do will be positive.
i think you should just sit down and talk about them with you child. don't tell him/her that you know because s/he will clam up and maybe go of the rails thinking that you have been snooping. just say that you think that s/he is at that age now where you think you should talk about them and maybe ask if s/he has tried them. if s/he says no them accept that and just go on to ask if they know the dangers or using illegal substances. also find website and find out about other peoples stories about how people have died from using them.
im a teenager and i have to say
one of the WORST feelings is letting your parents down
but i totally believe in tought love because
telling kids to stop, doesnt help
so my opinion is to send him or her to a
harsh teen rehab program
and let them know how dissappointed you are in them
and it might make an exmple for the other kids
he/she does drugs with.
as a teenager thats what i would want my mother to do
if i did drugs
Beat 'em!
Actually, I'm kidding. You should look at this in a rational way. The kid, who I imagine is somewhere between thirteen and sixteen? is probably under alot of peer pressure at school and I doubt is a hype. You should sit the kid down, explain what could come from this. Show him/her examples...pictures, perhaps, online, of druggies and what they come to look like. Give him/her a first hand look at this.
If its experimentational drugs like pot or mushrooms, don't be harsh: those, unless laced with some chemical or other drug, are absolutely not harmful on the body in the least and have no long-term effects, negative or positive. But if its something like LSD, Cocaine, heroine...you should definately give the kid a long lecture.
Now, I'm not a parent. I'm twenty years old and I've never done a drug in my life: I'm looking at this through the eyes of someone who feels very deeply about their loved ones (future children included), and I'm telling you what I would do. Reason with him/her, teach him/her what this can do. But don't put a leash on the kid unless there is no other choice. Make him/her see your side of the situtation. And always, always make sure the child knows you love him/her more then anything: that bond, if all else fails, is your last hope of getting through to them to stress this fact. You should never, ever make your kid feel like you don't love them and if you come down on the kid with an iron fist, that is whats going to happen. Get the kid involved in some after school programs, keep them busy. Let them play more games, hell, get them a new game system. I've always been into writing myself, fictional stories about dragons and all that fun stuff...
Anyways, I digress. Examples. Show this kid what will happen if he/she continues to use drugs (assuming they're bad drugs) and teach them that there are many, many crowds a kid can fit into. The 'in' crowd that does drugs is not the one to want to fit into, at all. Personally, I prefer the nerds!
my mom woop my *** when she found out that i was on drugs,and alcohol and ecstacy and speed etc...and i turned out good.... not great.you should punish or woop the kids ***.teach him a lesson he wont forget.
beat the fuc***S
just tell them u no, ur not gona stop them
if theyre in control tho leave them
i use hard drugs and im fine, i do well in college and im in good health, drugs arent as bad as the media makes them out to be
There are agencies who deals with this problem don't be agfraid they are professionals. Better do it now than be late- - - drug eaters heal themselves. God bless you and your child.
I would sit and talk to them and lock them in their room for the next 3mnths.
how bout....beatin hiz azz! lol
I would say that you need to indeed talk to your kid.
And no use delaying it at all.
Just go ahead......
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