I have been with this guy for almost 4 years and I have decided to break it off. I am moving all the way from Va back to my homestead in OH. For the last 3 years it has been an up and down roller coaster ride. From the name calling on both ends, the physical abuse on both ends, and much more. The sex life absolutely sucks. He does not care if I am being pleasured or not. When I tell him that I don't want to have sex, he gets angry and will call me name. And when I tell him what he could do to turn me on he says things like ';I really don't want to have to work that hard';... And I might ask something as simple as just some kissing or caressing. He just likes to get right down to business not caring if he is hurting me or not. We do have good times though but they are really short lived. Sometimes we get into arguements about the dumbest things and he sometimes goes overboard. For example, we were on the beach not to long ago and he was trying to feel my vagina. It made me uncomfortable and I asked him to stop and I moved his hand. He tried a few more time to put his hand inside of my bathingsuit bottoms and I kept blockinghis hand with me arm. Their were families and stuff near by and I did not like it. He got really angry that I did not let him have his way and he packed up and left the beach. We were having a great day until he did that. He called me a bit*h for it. I have just been dealing with this for so so so long now. I am used to to it now. I have tried to work on it but when I tell him that we need to communicate, or that we need to go to a counsilor he refuses. He says that I am the one who needs to change in order for him to change. I just am tired of being the one to change. And he uses the excuse that he works more than me and makes more than me as grounds for his defense. His defense is that because of his hard job and his income being more, I am the one who needs to cut him some slack when it comes to sex, and that I need to learn how to pick my battles. I just don't think that it is right for him to not work on his part of making this relationshup better but he expects me to changeHow do you know that it is time to move on? I need some serious advice please
You need to leave the relationship. It is not healthy, he is abusive and you may be too. Probably from trying to defend yourself. Get support from family and friends. Make sure you save a little money and plan it so that when you tell him, you are ready to act. This relationship is really harmful for both of you.How do you know that it is time to move on? I need some serious advice please
The guy is a jerk and you are making the right decision. Leave him behind. There are plenty of better fish in the sea.
Your both in a very unhealthy relationship and it's time to move on.
I'm glad your smart enough to finally leave now.
DUMP HIM MOVE ON HE IS A LOSER!!!!!!!!!1
when ure done, ure done, and u'll know it.
This guy sounds like a COMPLETE LOSER! Tell him flat out that if he wasn't so bad in bed, you would most likely want sex more often!
Drop this creep and find a REAL man ASAP!
Wow, this is like a mirror of my marriage,except the abuse is a one way street and I'm on the receiving end.
I think you should get out of this relationship. I know from experience it will not get better. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and it has gotten worse each year.
If my situation wasn't really complicated, I would get out. Good luck.
It's an excellent time for you to move on. When you get so used to the abuse that you're losing your better judgment....it's that you're in a really really really bad relationship. Let him be someone else's problem.
I dont have to finish reading what you wrote to tell you it is now the time to move on. Just get out of this relationship cos it is sick! You need to be on your own for sometime and learn to love yourself again.
If you don't have children with this man, it is time to break it off. He obviously doesn't care about you. He is comfortable with the relationship as it is, sex when he wants, and he doesn't care about you. He obviously doesn't care about other people either, he only cares about himself. He is right you are not going to change him and if you don't change and become happy being his doormat you are going to be miserable. Why have you stayed so long?
you know its time when your just tired. tired of dealing and dont care a whole lot about it anymore.
thats when you know your done
I think the deciding factor in deciding when to move on is simple...will you be happier with them, or without them? Obviously initially you'll be unhappy...but in the long run do you see yourself having a better happier life? if you do then you need to move on.
He sounds like a real prize. I can't imagine why you are thinking of leaving him.
Do you sense a degree of sarcasm? What are you getting out of this relationship? Are you a Masochist?
I thnk you gave this relationship enough time and are getting nothing but unhappiness and disappointments with a guy who is not willing to work on things. No one can work on obtaining a healthy relationship with his no fault attitude. His refusal to work on things indicates no guarantees of better days. I'd say it is time for you to stop wasting your time and move on. It is obvious you are not happy and he shows such little regard towards your feelings and needs he sounds to be a guy that lacks respect for women. Move on so you can at least give yourself a chance to meet someone who will love and respect you. Good luck to you!
Move on. He'll realize that he screwed up. Then he will change. Hopefully it's not too late for both of you. Otherwise move on.
wow, sounds like you both are not on the same level. I understand about the beach thing it would make me uncomfortable too. Marriage is a two way street and it should be both of you working to change and make it better not just one person. Maybe some time apart for you both will help. If he really loves you then he will want to talk things out and make them better with you and for you.
Have you ever thought that he is controlling and abusive??? By trying to force you to do something that you are uncomfortable with and then calling you names (the beach incident) is his way of trying to control you. His goal is to make you do what he wants even if you do not want to. By forcing you into sex that you do not want (AKA rape) he is controlling you and abusing you again. By telling you he doesn't want to work to make you happy in bed, is telling you he doesn't care about your feelings. But he has you so beaten down that you will do what he wants anyway. By becoming physical, and this can happen on both sides as a way of giving what you are taking (a sort of trade or emotional exchange), it is a sign of physical dominance and a way to hurt the other person.
Now would be the perfect time to leave and take yourself out of this relationship. You need to find out what kind of person you want to be and the kind of person you want in your life. Don't short change yourself or think that you do not deserve the best out there. Just make sure that you are also doing the best you can and giving the best of yourself to someone who deserves it.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Job references can you give me some advice?
When filling out application forms for jobs, I am finding it a problem to get a reference. As most of my past employers no longer work for the company or they have change addresses. Have you any ideas that could help?Job references can you give me some advice?
Very common problem, half the companies I have worked for have closed. Why do people ask for refs when you cant give a bad one?Job references can you give me some advice?
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How does it work?
Companies pay rewards 1 to have their site, and the points get passed onto you.
Members earn points by completing offers provided by various merchants under the ';Offers'; menu section.
To complete an offer
Browse to the Offers section of our website under ';Offers';.
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Just write HR... then the company you worked for. They will still have a record of you working there. If not choose a character reference from doctor, family friend.
Try volunteering in the meantime to get a reference from them.
Very common problem, half the companies I have worked for have closed. Why do people ask for refs when you cant give a bad one?Job references can you give me some advice?
Join this site, you can order game subscriptions such as runescape and WoW subcriptions, free xbox live, video games such as wii fit. You can also custom order items off of ebay and amazon, you can even earn paypal cash, and cheques straight to your door.
How does it work?
Companies pay rewards 1 to have their site, and the points get passed onto you.
Members earn points by completing offers provided by various merchants under the ';Offers'; menu section.
To complete an offer
Browse to the Offers section of our website under ';Offers';.
Click an offer 鈥?a new window will open with the offer and instructions to follow to complete that offer.
After successfully completing the offer, your account should be credited (typically) within minutes.
To sign up the link below.
http://www.rewards1.com/index.php?referr鈥?/a>
And a very good guide is here.
www.rewards1help.tk
Just write HR... then the company you worked for. They will still have a record of you working there. If not choose a character reference from doctor, family friend.
Try volunteering in the meantime to get a reference from them.
If you could go back in time and give your teenage self one piece of advice about life, what would it be?
As a teenager myself, I'm struggling with trying to find myself and figure out how to live life to the fullest. I'm curious what adults looking back on that time of their life would have told their teenage self to help guide them through their teens. Thank you!If you could go back in time and give your teenage self one piece of advice about life, what would it be?
Get a job while you are still a teenager!!!
(I didn't try looking for work until I was in my 20s and by then I was expected to have experience).If you could go back in time and give your teenage self one piece of advice about life, what would it be?
tens know nothing ask you mother for advice she is the one that know most and leasing her she is the expert and you can trust her well,
A smart person learns from their own mistakes, but a wise person learns from other peoples.
Seize the moment. Life for the moment.
don't (repeat DON'T) get married before the age of 30.
Dont give into peer pressure.
Get a job while you are still a teenager!!!
(I didn't try looking for work until I was in my 20s and by then I was expected to have experience).If you could go back in time and give your teenage self one piece of advice about life, what would it be?
tens know nothing ask you mother for advice she is the one that know most and leasing her she is the expert and you can trust her well,
A smart person learns from their own mistakes, but a wise person learns from other peoples.
Seize the moment. Life for the moment.
don't (repeat DON'T) get married before the age of 30.
Dont give into peer pressure.
What is the Go San Diego card? And can you give me some tips, and advice about vacationing in San Diego?
Traveling to San Diego in a little over a week with husband and kids ranging from 4-12, would love some advice about the Go San Diego card and some insight about things to do and places to eat...keeping in mind that this is a family vacation. Thanks in advance!What is the Go San Diego card? And can you give me some tips, and advice about vacationing in San Diego?
I too have enver heard of this so I went to look it up. You know, to me,,it looks pricey and when you look at whaat it offers, I don't see the advantage. Sure, you might save 10.00 on major attractions, but the card itself is about 50 per day and you would spend more than that in gas just to get everywhere it offers discounts to take advantage of it and you couldnt in one day and actually enjoy yourself.
There is much to do in san diego, Seaport Village, Coronado Beach, Old Town, Balboa Park all of which costs next to nothing to spend the day You absolutely cannot visit and pass up the Zoo. I live here and it is the one place I never allow company to miss seeing. There is a water park in Chula Vista. Legoland up north in Oceanside and Sea World. the Wild Animal Park (its a bit of a drive to get to) but they are not cheap..If I am not mistaken you can guess on spending about fifty dollars a person or slightly more for those attractions but they do take up an entire day so it is all in how you look at it.
I forgot to mention Belmont Park with the roller coaster in Mission Beach. Another great way to spend a dayl
good luck and have fun.. it's a great city and county. Not to many places where you can go from the beach to the mountains and the desert within an hours drive.
Link about the go card...
http://www.gosandiegocard.com/specialoff鈥?/a>What is the Go San Diego card? And can you give me some tips, and advice about vacationing in San Diego?
Well the Go San Diego card is a card that basically you pay for and it gets you into a bunch of different great family places! It's way cheaper to do it that way because a lot of the places out here can be expensive! I highly recommend you go ahead and purchase that instead of paying way more at the parks themselves. And try to hit every place you can because everything it has to offer is well worth going to. If you want to see a bunch of different family fun things to do out here you can check out my San Diego blog I write about a lot of great places and most of what I write about is family oriented since I have a daughter and anywhere we go she's always with us! Check it out and I really hope that helps!
Victoria
http://www.about-sandiegoca.com/
The beach is always fun. There is the zoo, Legoland, Disneyland and so much more.
You can find the ';Go San Diego'; card at
';YTB Travel - Amazing Tours and Travel';
http://www.ytbtravel.com/amazingtoursandtravel
It is found under ';extras'; - ';tickets'; - ';tickets and attractions';
You can also find the ';go Los Angeles'; and ';Southern California'; cards as well.
Have fun on your vacation.
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http://www.localwally.com/
http://www.signonsandiego.com/feature/22鈥?/a>
http://bestof.signonsandiego.com/bestof2鈥?/a>
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I LIVE IN SAN DIEGO! I've never heard of the ';Go San Diego card,'; but I can totally give suggestions of places to visit.
They don't call it ';The World Famous San Diego Zoo'; for nothing.
Sea World
Balboa park -- there are tons of museums, exhibits, etc.
Belmont Park -- It's sort of a small amusement park by the beach
Sea Port Village -- It's right by the ocean and has tons of fun little shops and restaurants
Have a great time!
PS: The link below has tons of suggestions as well!
I too have enver heard of this so I went to look it up. You know, to me,,it looks pricey and when you look at whaat it offers, I don't see the advantage. Sure, you might save 10.00 on major attractions, but the card itself is about 50 per day and you would spend more than that in gas just to get everywhere it offers discounts to take advantage of it and you couldnt in one day and actually enjoy yourself.
There is much to do in san diego, Seaport Village, Coronado Beach, Old Town, Balboa Park all of which costs next to nothing to spend the day You absolutely cannot visit and pass up the Zoo. I live here and it is the one place I never allow company to miss seeing. There is a water park in Chula Vista. Legoland up north in Oceanside and Sea World. the Wild Animal Park (its a bit of a drive to get to) but they are not cheap..If I am not mistaken you can guess on spending about fifty dollars a person or slightly more for those attractions but they do take up an entire day so it is all in how you look at it.
I forgot to mention Belmont Park with the roller coaster in Mission Beach. Another great way to spend a dayl
good luck and have fun.. it's a great city and county. Not to many places where you can go from the beach to the mountains and the desert within an hours drive.
Link about the go card...
http://www.gosandiegocard.com/specialoff鈥?/a>What is the Go San Diego card? And can you give me some tips, and advice about vacationing in San Diego?
Well the Go San Diego card is a card that basically you pay for and it gets you into a bunch of different great family places! It's way cheaper to do it that way because a lot of the places out here can be expensive! I highly recommend you go ahead and purchase that instead of paying way more at the parks themselves. And try to hit every place you can because everything it has to offer is well worth going to. If you want to see a bunch of different family fun things to do out here you can check out my San Diego blog I write about a lot of great places and most of what I write about is family oriented since I have a daughter and anywhere we go she's always with us! Check it out and I really hope that helps!
Victoria
http://www.about-sandiegoca.com/
The beach is always fun. There is the zoo, Legoland, Disneyland and so much more.
You can find the ';Go San Diego'; card at
';YTB Travel - Amazing Tours and Travel';
http://www.ytbtravel.com/amazingtoursandtravel
It is found under ';extras'; - ';tickets'; - ';tickets and attractions';
You can also find the ';go Los Angeles'; and ';Southern California'; cards as well.
Have fun on your vacation.
http://www.costco.com/Browse/Product.asp鈥?/a>
http://www.localwally.com/
http://www.signonsandiego.com/feature/22鈥?/a>
http://bestof.signonsandiego.com/bestof2鈥?/a>
http://sandiego.citysearch.com/roundup/3鈥?/a>
http://sandiego.citysearch.com/bestof/wi鈥?/a>
http://www.tripadvisor.com/Attractions-g鈥?/a>
http://www.sandiegorestaurants.com/price鈥?/a>
http://www.wavehouse.com/
http://www.midway.org/site/pp.asp?c=coIM鈥?/a>
I LIVE IN SAN DIEGO! I've never heard of the ';Go San Diego card,'; but I can totally give suggestions of places to visit.
They don't call it ';The World Famous San Diego Zoo'; for nothing.
Sea World
Balboa park -- there are tons of museums, exhibits, etc.
Belmont Park -- It's sort of a small amusement park by the beach
Sea Port Village -- It's right by the ocean and has tons of fun little shops and restaurants
Have a great time!
PS: The link below has tons of suggestions as well!
How many of you here still give advice on relationships but still have dysfunctional relationships?
i admit i am in one. will you?How many of you here still give advice on relationships but still have dysfunctional relationships?
Me! I am great at advice, not so great at following my own. My second marriage is not perfect, but does not have the struggles my first did. I truly have my soft place to fall. We love one another very much and are commit ed 100%. I have also learned some tough lessons along the way. My dysfunctional is more in parenting relationships. All we can do is take it one day at a time, do our best, and not be afraid to apologize.How many of you here still give advice on relationships but still have dysfunctional relationships?
dysfunctional relationships are the story of my life, they define my world.
For some reason people are so intimidated by my beauty that is creates jealousy in all the relationships I have and I must move on, otherwise they would always feel sub par compared to this gorgeous face I have.
i was married, now i'm not -- so i'm not in a dysfunctional relationship.... my ex husband was a pretty good guy,and i am the one who filed for divorce. I think i outgrew the relationship, and sometimes i do regret divorcing him, but in most ways, i'm better off.
I have a fantastic relationship. She is a perfect woman.....perfect.
I know what you may be thinking, and I thought that a few years ago, but she's a super person, and a super woman. I follow the same advice I give (and have given) here.
Have you ever heard of the phrase ';those who can't do teach';? Just because someone can't get their own relationships right doesn't mean they don't have good advice. Though there are plenty of those out there giving advice that is no good too.
I'm not in a dysfunctional relationship anymore. But it's my experience from having been in one that, I hope, can help others in a similar situation. You have to learn from the past.
Other than the fact that I post questions about my partner who won't marry me, I am in a healthy relationship and I am confident and I believe I can give advice from a stable healthy relationship that may help others.
LMAO--everyone has dysfunctional parts of their relationships with other people! Some of us more than others!
I still give advice but I'm in a nice healthy relationship. I learn the mistakes of others in they're relationships.
Everyone is dysfunctional in some way or another. I try to give advise on the stuff I lived and learned.
I give common sence and logic.
No, I don't have dysfunctional relationship.
Guilty.
Who better to relate to a situation than someone who has walked in those same shoes?
if you vote me the best answer ... Well, i used to be in one but i broke it off cuz he was a psyco lol
From all the messed up answers I read, that would be everybody.
of course, i admit it!
%26lt;--------- sits in the back and slowly raises hand...been married way more that once so people shouldn't listen to a word i say...:)
Would i be hanging here if i didn't?
Aye, I'm one of them too.eyeshadow color
Me! I am great at advice, not so great at following my own. My second marriage is not perfect, but does not have the struggles my first did. I truly have my soft place to fall. We love one another very much and are commit ed 100%. I have also learned some tough lessons along the way. My dysfunctional is more in parenting relationships. All we can do is take it one day at a time, do our best, and not be afraid to apologize.How many of you here still give advice on relationships but still have dysfunctional relationships?
dysfunctional relationships are the story of my life, they define my world.
For some reason people are so intimidated by my beauty that is creates jealousy in all the relationships I have and I must move on, otherwise they would always feel sub par compared to this gorgeous face I have.
i was married, now i'm not -- so i'm not in a dysfunctional relationship.... my ex husband was a pretty good guy,and i am the one who filed for divorce. I think i outgrew the relationship, and sometimes i do regret divorcing him, but in most ways, i'm better off.
I have a fantastic relationship. She is a perfect woman.....perfect.
I know what you may be thinking, and I thought that a few years ago, but she's a super person, and a super woman. I follow the same advice I give (and have given) here.
Have you ever heard of the phrase ';those who can't do teach';? Just because someone can't get their own relationships right doesn't mean they don't have good advice. Though there are plenty of those out there giving advice that is no good too.
I'm not in a dysfunctional relationship anymore. But it's my experience from having been in one that, I hope, can help others in a similar situation. You have to learn from the past.
Other than the fact that I post questions about my partner who won't marry me, I am in a healthy relationship and I am confident and I believe I can give advice from a stable healthy relationship that may help others.
LMAO--everyone has dysfunctional parts of their relationships with other people! Some of us more than others!
I still give advice but I'm in a nice healthy relationship. I learn the mistakes of others in they're relationships.
Everyone is dysfunctional in some way or another. I try to give advise on the stuff I lived and learned.
I give common sence and logic.
No, I don't have dysfunctional relationship.
Guilty.
Who better to relate to a situation than someone who has walked in those same shoes?
if you vote me the best answer ... Well, i used to be in one but i broke it off cuz he was a psyco lol
From all the messed up answers I read, that would be everybody.
of course, i admit it!
%26lt;--------- sits in the back and slowly raises hand...been married way more that once so people shouldn't listen to a word i say...:)
Would i be hanging here if i didn't?
Aye, I'm one of them too.
Can you give a potential enlistee some advice?
As my wife and I ponder my decision to join the Army, some pretty compelling questions are out there. I'd appreciate your experiences with the following (recruiters, with all respect, please f**k off):
I'm looking at a 98XL/98C MOS, and my buddy (97E, in Iraq) says I can hold out for the MOS and the language I want when I go to MEPS. The local recruiter says no way, the Army will give you the language it wants to.
Is the Army giving bonuses for people willing to take Arabic as their language?
I know enlistment is eight years total. What can you do to have some control over what the Army does with you after your active duty hitch ends?
Is it possible for a 98C to get SERE training?
What will Army housing be like for my wife and baby?
Does the Army by and large keep its word in terms of the enlistment document? If I sign up for College Loan Repayment Program and the Army reneges, my family is screwed on my pay.
Are recruiters idiots or liars? Their crap has been impediment #1Can you give a potential enlistee some advice?
well first off remember the only way that you can be guaranteed a language is if you already have a degree in it or have taken the language proficiency test and scored well in it. And as for the bonus's it goes up and down every quarter. if you sign up for four years and have four left you could either join the reserves or IRR . Now if your only coming in for the min why would you want to go to sear training its no joke its not a picnic in the park i know. Army housing varies from bases to base i mean the style . And yes the army keeps its word you get everything that is written down on paper in black and white. but remember to read every thing and don't be afraid to ask questions about every paper. I have a soldier that was suppose to go to Airborne before he got to the unit but they didn't send him he told me and i looked at his contract and sure enough he was suppose to go so i took care of him and now his going back to the states in two months to go to Airborne school. they made the mistake but we fixed it. All i can say is you and your wife need to think this out and decide on the best course of action that will benefit your family . and i cant stress it enough ask questions i was lucky my father was a Sergent Major when i joined so he watched out for me. Good luck on your decision and not all recuiter are idiots or liars find one that you can trustCan you give a potential enlistee some advice?
Personally I would go Air force. You may not get the rank as fast, but its a fact that the Air Force has a better way of life. They take better care of their people. When did they up the commitment to 8 years? It use to be only 6. Talk to a number of recruiters and you will know who is BS'ing you and who isn't. My recruiter was spot on with me.
I'd rather give you some very practical advice for a person about to be a recruit. Get in the best shape you can before leaving for basic. Get used to getting up before 5:00a.m, go exercise and run at least two miles before you eat breakfast. If you show up in shape, you'll be more alert during classes and you'll ask more and better questions. This will bring you to the attention of the NCO's teaching the classes. Getting ahead requires being noticed.
Zip locks!!!!!
You'll be going to the woods for training and throughout your tour of duty. Buy 1 gallon ziplocs, heavy duty is better. Load one complete change of underwear in one ziploc, that way, when you are in the field and get rained on, you'll have dry underwear and socks. You'll also find it easier to reach into your pack in the dark and find a ziploc than digging around for the individual pieces. The empty ziploc makes a good pillow, too......and someplace to put worn wet clothes.
Don't count on Army housing at any place you'll be transferred. Most places are full and you'll probably be given the option of living off post and given a housing allowance. I would highly recommend that you leave your family someplace where there is family support nearby while you are away at training. for you to focus and excel and be noticed, you don't need the distraction of trying to keep a family together at some strange place where you are the only person your wife knows. Military training posts are notorious for having very low wages for part time spouses IF she can find a job and work and you can afford day care.
Ask a lot of Questions before you leep into this one. No crybabys allowed ! Some men grow up on the battlefield. When you sign up for any armed forces, it's as I have mentioned before: '; Mine is not to question Why, Mine is but to Do or Die ';. good luck, Claudia
i don't know about the rest of your questions but personally I liken recruiters to used car salesmen, they will tell you anything,mine flat out told me to lie about things so he could fast track me in.
You better be prepared for some harsh realities. Regardless of what MOS your recruiter secured for you, all this means is that you will receive that training, not that you will be working in this specialty. The needs of the army comes first. If they need front line grunts, then that what you will be doing, and your official MOS is 11B, infantryman. This comes from experience while in the U.S. Army.
Ok, whatever branch you choose and whatever deal you make GET IT IN WRITING.......and yes the branches do keep their word about schooling.
First off...talk with an Air Force recruiter. I was prior Army and crossed over to the AF 18 yrs ago. The quality of life in the AF is 100 times better than the Army (bases, housing, bonuses, etc). The AF has some big bonuses for language skills that you will get upon joining as well as a pay increase every month depending on your language skill level. As far as the college goes...the Army bumps the benefits up to reel you in but never tells you that the other services do the same thing and it is easier to continue school in the AF. Just talk with the AF recruiter and see what they have to offer. I can promise you it will be WAY better than what the Army has to offer.
Given the current situation in Iraq, I would advise you not to join the army at this point of time. Think of your wife. Your family. Are you willing to forsake these and be prepared to be posted for duty in Iraq?
You'll never know what will happen. When you are at the airport, departing for Iraq, it may be the last time you will see your wife. Can you imagine seeing her for the last time?
I'm not trying to curse you or anything buddy. But I'm hoping you are aware of the probability of mishap happening to you, especially if you are fresh, and not as alert to the situation as the war veterans are. You may walk into a road-side bomb trap without realising it.
Think over it carefully.
I'm looking at a 98XL/98C MOS, and my buddy (97E, in Iraq) says I can hold out for the MOS and the language I want when I go to MEPS. The local recruiter says no way, the Army will give you the language it wants to.
Is the Army giving bonuses for people willing to take Arabic as their language?
I know enlistment is eight years total. What can you do to have some control over what the Army does with you after your active duty hitch ends?
Is it possible for a 98C to get SERE training?
What will Army housing be like for my wife and baby?
Does the Army by and large keep its word in terms of the enlistment document? If I sign up for College Loan Repayment Program and the Army reneges, my family is screwed on my pay.
Are recruiters idiots or liars? Their crap has been impediment #1Can you give a potential enlistee some advice?
well first off remember the only way that you can be guaranteed a language is if you already have a degree in it or have taken the language proficiency test and scored well in it. And as for the bonus's it goes up and down every quarter. if you sign up for four years and have four left you could either join the reserves or IRR . Now if your only coming in for the min why would you want to go to sear training its no joke its not a picnic in the park i know. Army housing varies from bases to base i mean the style . And yes the army keeps its word you get everything that is written down on paper in black and white. but remember to read every thing and don't be afraid to ask questions about every paper. I have a soldier that was suppose to go to Airborne before he got to the unit but they didn't send him he told me and i looked at his contract and sure enough he was suppose to go so i took care of him and now his going back to the states in two months to go to Airborne school. they made the mistake but we fixed it. All i can say is you and your wife need to think this out and decide on the best course of action that will benefit your family . and i cant stress it enough ask questions i was lucky my father was a Sergent Major when i joined so he watched out for me. Good luck on your decision and not all recuiter are idiots or liars find one that you can trustCan you give a potential enlistee some advice?
Personally I would go Air force. You may not get the rank as fast, but its a fact that the Air Force has a better way of life. They take better care of their people. When did they up the commitment to 8 years? It use to be only 6. Talk to a number of recruiters and you will know who is BS'ing you and who isn't. My recruiter was spot on with me.
I'd rather give you some very practical advice for a person about to be a recruit. Get in the best shape you can before leaving for basic. Get used to getting up before 5:00a.m, go exercise and run at least two miles before you eat breakfast. If you show up in shape, you'll be more alert during classes and you'll ask more and better questions. This will bring you to the attention of the NCO's teaching the classes. Getting ahead requires being noticed.
Zip locks!!!!!
You'll be going to the woods for training and throughout your tour of duty. Buy 1 gallon ziplocs, heavy duty is better. Load one complete change of underwear in one ziploc, that way, when you are in the field and get rained on, you'll have dry underwear and socks. You'll also find it easier to reach into your pack in the dark and find a ziploc than digging around for the individual pieces. The empty ziploc makes a good pillow, too......and someplace to put worn wet clothes.
Don't count on Army housing at any place you'll be transferred. Most places are full and you'll probably be given the option of living off post and given a housing allowance. I would highly recommend that you leave your family someplace where there is family support nearby while you are away at training. for you to focus and excel and be noticed, you don't need the distraction of trying to keep a family together at some strange place where you are the only person your wife knows. Military training posts are notorious for having very low wages for part time spouses IF she can find a job and work and you can afford day care.
Ask a lot of Questions before you leep into this one. No crybabys allowed ! Some men grow up on the battlefield. When you sign up for any armed forces, it's as I have mentioned before: '; Mine is not to question Why, Mine is but to Do or Die ';. good luck, Claudia
i don't know about the rest of your questions but personally I liken recruiters to used car salesmen, they will tell you anything,mine flat out told me to lie about things so he could fast track me in.
You better be prepared for some harsh realities. Regardless of what MOS your recruiter secured for you, all this means is that you will receive that training, not that you will be working in this specialty. The needs of the army comes first. If they need front line grunts, then that what you will be doing, and your official MOS is 11B, infantryman. This comes from experience while in the U.S. Army.
Ok, whatever branch you choose and whatever deal you make GET IT IN WRITING.......and yes the branches do keep their word about schooling.
First off...talk with an Air Force recruiter. I was prior Army and crossed over to the AF 18 yrs ago. The quality of life in the AF is 100 times better than the Army (bases, housing, bonuses, etc). The AF has some big bonuses for language skills that you will get upon joining as well as a pay increase every month depending on your language skill level. As far as the college goes...the Army bumps the benefits up to reel you in but never tells you that the other services do the same thing and it is easier to continue school in the AF. Just talk with the AF recruiter and see what they have to offer. I can promise you it will be WAY better than what the Army has to offer.
Given the current situation in Iraq, I would advise you not to join the army at this point of time. Think of your wife. Your family. Are you willing to forsake these and be prepared to be posted for duty in Iraq?
You'll never know what will happen. When you are at the airport, departing for Iraq, it may be the last time you will see your wife. Can you imagine seeing her for the last time?
I'm not trying to curse you or anything buddy. But I'm hoping you are aware of the probability of mishap happening to you, especially if you are fresh, and not as alert to the situation as the war veterans are. You may walk into a road-side bomb trap without realising it.
Think over it carefully.
Do you think Joe Biden was giving that airplane advice?
Or was he just saying ';if it were me'; I would not get on a plane right now?
I think we are beating him up for no reason, but thats just me.Do you think Joe Biden was giving that airplane advice?
For once I think he said the right thing. It is only common sense that people avoid airplanes, subways and other crowded places until this flu thing is over with.Do you think Joe Biden was giving that airplane advice?
yeah, Joe is a really cool guy. I think most of the times what he says 'off the cuff' turns into media fodder. I think he is thinking the same thing most of us are, which is ';jeez, I sure am glad I dont' have to travel right now. it'd suck to have to face that risk.';
Right or wrong, he says what he thinks. Sometimes he has to ';change feet and breathe'; but that's our Joe.
I think he said exactly what he meant. He was referring to himself and his preferences. Period. The rest of us can take it or leave it.
not to worry, robert gibbs has already stated that what biden said what not what biden meant........unbefukkinlievable.
that explains why air force one didn't have any passengers when it flew over the statue of liberty,...now I understand...thanks Joe...lol.....wasting plane fuel but taking precautions not to spread the flu...cool
Biden is just biden his time, he wouldn't be there without Comrade Obama.
It was more of a ';if it were me';...which makes alot of sense if you are worried. Germs are easily spread in close quarters like planes etc
Gibbs said he didn't know what he was talking about. Why would anyone think Biden is smarter than Bush?
He's just being Bozo the Veep. Why in the hell BHO ever picked him is beyond me.
I think we are beating him up for no reason, but thats just me.Do you think Joe Biden was giving that airplane advice?
For once I think he said the right thing. It is only common sense that people avoid airplanes, subways and other crowded places until this flu thing is over with.Do you think Joe Biden was giving that airplane advice?
yeah, Joe is a really cool guy. I think most of the times what he says 'off the cuff' turns into media fodder. I think he is thinking the same thing most of us are, which is ';jeez, I sure am glad I dont' have to travel right now. it'd suck to have to face that risk.';
Right or wrong, he says what he thinks. Sometimes he has to ';change feet and breathe'; but that's our Joe.
I think he said exactly what he meant. He was referring to himself and his preferences. Period. The rest of us can take it or leave it.
not to worry, robert gibbs has already stated that what biden said what not what biden meant........unbefukkinlievable.
that explains why air force one didn't have any passengers when it flew over the statue of liberty,...now I understand...thanks Joe...lol.....wasting plane fuel but taking precautions not to spread the flu...cool
Biden is just biden his time, he wouldn't be there without Comrade Obama.
It was more of a ';if it were me';...which makes alot of sense if you are worried. Germs are easily spread in close quarters like planes etc
Gibbs said he didn't know what he was talking about. Why would anyone think Biden is smarter than Bush?
He's just being Bozo the Veep. Why in the hell BHO ever picked him is beyond me.
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